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Twelve Qualities of Sponsorship

  1. I will not help you to stay and wallow in limbo.
  2. I will help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition.
  3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more free to become the authority for your own living.
  4. I can not give you dreams or “fix you up” simply because I can not.
  5. I can not give you growth, or grow for you. You must grow for yourself by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.
  6. I can not take away your loneliness or your pain.
  7. I can not sense your world for you, evaluate your goals for you, tell you what is best for your world; because you have your own world in which you must live.
  8. I can not convince you of the necessity to make the vital decision of choosing the frightening uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of remaining static.
  9. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend; yet I can not get close to you when you choose not to grow.
  10. When I begin to care for you out of pity or when I begin to lose faith in you, then I am inhibiting both for you and for me.
  11. You must know and understand my help is conditional. I will be with you and “hang in there” with you so long as I continue to get even the slightest hint that you are still trying to grow.
  12. If you can accept this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what G-d meant us to be, mature adults, leaving childishness forever to the little children of the world.

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