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Old Timer’s Prayer

God, keep me from thinking I must share in every meeting, no matter the topic. Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details and give me wings to get to the point. Remind me to guard confidences and to keep still when I feel it is necessary to speak up for someone’s own good.

Release me from the need to straighten out everybody else’s thinking and program. God, I ask for the grace to listen to newcomers. Please help me to remember the patience with which others listened to me when I was new.
Please seal my lips to giving advice, and help me to remember to share only my experience, strength, and hope.

Remind me that my purpose is to fit myself to be of maximum service to You and to the people around me. Help me to remain teachable. Teach me (again) the lesson that, occasionally, it is possible that I may be wrong; and remind me, please, of the freedom that I gain when I am able to promptly admit I am wrong and make amends where necessary.

Help me to remember the difference between making amends and just saying, I am sorry. Help me to be a worker among workers, a friend among friends. Please keep me from being a bleeding deacon, and help me to walk the path towards being an elder statesman/stateswoman. Keep me ever mindful that I cannot manage my own life through my own unaided will. I know that I am not a saint; please show me the way to seek You so that I may continue to grow along spiritual lines.

Remind me, please, of Rule 62 to not take myself so damn seriously. (It is so easy to take myself way too seriously.) Keep me free of gossip, character assassination, and judgment. Remind me that because I am not perfect, although I have humbly asked, my character defects and shortcomings still arise unexpectedly, to cause damage to others and to myself.

Help me to walk with faith and acceptance, to see good things in unexpected places and talents in unexpected people, and give me the grace to tell them so. Help me to see that You love each of Your children, and that You do not need my opinion of them or suggestions on what they might deserve.

Amen

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Prayer, Meditation & Self Examination

When first he came into the rooms, unsure of what he’d find
He heard the people say some things that never crossed his mind
Slogans written on the walls and lists that did suggest
Steps he’d need to follow for his need to drink divest

Prayer and meditation combined with self-examination
A member said were critical for building a foundation
A foundation that will help to fight against the urge to drink
The new man could not understand the way these people think

A lot of us were just the same, confused by all this talk
Hearing what they said to do caused some of us to balk
We had not prayed in many years, did not know how to start
Or even if we did believe that God should play a part

As for meditation, how could that help us abstain
This was a thing for Buddhist monks, repeating some refrain
And self-examination, well, there was no need for this
Why bring up all our defects, they were better left dismissed

But slowly some of these things did begin to take affect
The first was prayer to someone’s God, and hoped that we’d connect
We were unsure if this would work, but still gave it a go
It could not hurt and maybe something good would start to grow

We’d never tried to meditate; this concept was brand new
Yet said we’d give this thing a try, but knew not what to do
Close our eyes, sit very still and try to keep from thinking
But thoughts arose, we wondered what this had to do with drinking
This self-examination thing was not at all what we expected
A wallow in self-loathing was the thing we had suspected
But we were told, a balance sheet, was what we had to make
To view the good that we had done along with our mistakes

To start to pray a simple please and thank you is one way
So, thoughts of using alcohol, you pray, will stay away
And thank you in the evening for the spiritual assistance
That helped you do the next right thing, an aid to your resistance

Meditation may be difficult when you first give it a try
To free your mind from all those constant thoughts that wonder by
Begin with a few minutes, close your eyes and start to drift
Into a space of solitude as all tension start to lift

Bedtime is the perfect time for self-examination
For looking back upon your day for any indication
Of incidents that had occurred that led you to react
In such a way that made you wish that you could take it back

Step Eleven states that when these three things are united
A spiritual experience will soon start to be ignited
Each part alone will help you navigate through nasty weather
But the best results are felt when they are put to use together

Larry R.

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The Power of The Pause

We hear about a kit of tools to help us to get by
When life decides to intervene, our peace to nullify
A tool that is most useful, no matter what the cause
Is one that we have learned to use, the one that’s called the pause

While drinking most of us rejected turning from a fight
Weather physical or verbal since we knew that we were right
Our first instinct was to lash out and make them understand
That we were right and they were wrong, we made it a demand

The bad part of this action was it always made things worse
Tempers flared, bad things were said, we’d yell and start to curse
Then walk away and carry a resentment in our brain
And drink to help forget our way of thinking was insane

Once we turned the corner and our drinking days were through
We started to think differently, a better path pursue
When faced with situations that would cause us to react
We stop and think, before we speak, some words we can’t take back

By pausing when confronted by a person, place or thing
That sets us up to lash out, makes us want to take a swing
We take the time to contemplate and let our minds rehearse
If striking back will really help or only make things worse

This does not mean we must accept what others do or say
But we have learned, most times it’s best, to put those thoughts at bay
Restrain the natural impulse to avenge what we conceive
An offence directed towards us or insensitivity

By taking time to let things cool we often realize
The thing that had upset us melts away, desensitizes
Refusing to engage what would had been an altercation
We did not add to feelings that would harm future relations

A friend or spouse just sometimes may be having a bad day
Makes a careless comment, hurts our feelings, cause dismay
They may not have meant to say it, we decide to let it pass
We think of other times when we’re the one that was the ass

So, taking time to pause before we jumped into the fray
We avoided confrontation with our defect on display
Pausing gives us power just to do the next right thing
Practice what we have been taught, serenity is king.

Larry R.

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No “First Drink” Serenity Prayer

My Higher Power and God of My Understanding

GRANT ME
Serenity to accept that I am an Alcoholic
and that I am helpless and powerless over alcohol.

Courage, willingness and the ability to change my
thinking, my attitude and actions concerning alcohol
and not drinking – Today!

Wisdom to know that You are my Higher Power
and only with Your help, am I able to not take that
“first drink” today and stay sober today!

God, Grant me Your Grace
To accept I am powerless to not drink on my own will.
And the Wisdom to know that after my “First Drink”,
I am not the same person who promised . . .
“I will not drink today”!
Unfortunately, I would continue to drink and drink.

It Is . . . Only One Day at a Time!
Today … I will not drink that “First Drink”

James Patrick M.